Here is a piece of wisdom I’ve been missing in my current (and ongoing) struggle for dealing appropriately with others, and it was in the Wiccan Rede all along.
Fairly Take, Fairly Give
I’ve always seen that line as meaning “Don’t take too much, Don’t give too little”.
However, I hadn’t looked at it from the flip side: “Don’t give too much, Don’t take too little”.
Fairness works both ways, and I’ve been shortchanging myself by not enforcing fairness on the flip side.
As part of being a “responsible person”, part of that duty is to enforce fairness towards yourself, not just others.
It’s not selfish… it’s responsible.
And it also allows others the chance to give and be received.